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BROOKLYN EAGLE, JUNE 21, 195T 21 I MEN Are Sociohy Elizabeth J. Hurley Bride of Mr. Candels Miss Elizabeth Jean Hurley, Francis Hurley of 165 Maple Lothar Richard Candels, son of of Avon, at the Church Rev. Philip Stephen Hurley, uncle of the bride, ated. reception followed at the Montauk Club.

The bride wore an ivory satin dress made with a lace yoke, a full skirt and a train. Her headpiece was a full-length heirloom Princess lace veil which had been worn by her mother. She carried a prayer book with white orchids and lilies of the valley. Miss Barbara Ann Baumbogger of Montciair, N. was the maid of honor.

The Misses Dorothy Carroll Goedecke of Maplewood, N. Faith Elizabeth Goedecke of Upper Montclair, N. and Ruth Hurley of Westfield, N. all cousins of the bride, were bridesmaids. Miss Baumbogger wore white organdy over aqua taffeta with an aqua velvet sash and matching headband.

The other attendants wore similar dresses of white organdy over blue, yellow and violet taffeta and velvet sashes and headbands which matched. All the attendants carried sprays of yellow daisies. Carl Canders of Avon was best man for his brother. The ushers were Paul Francis brother of the bride, Anthony O'Neill of Avon and Crosson Hayes Curry of Pittsburgh, Pa. Mrs.

Candels received her education at Lacordaire Academy, Upper Montclair, and Albertus Magnus College, New Haven, Conn. The bridegroom, who attended Avon Old Farms Preparatory School and Fordham University, is studying at the State University of New York College of Medicine, Brooklyn, where he is a member of Alpha Kappa fraternity. Mr. and Mrs. will take a motor trip to Nova Scotia.

Marian Francis Diedricks Bride of Lt. G. F. Cook Announcement Is made of the marriage of Miss Marian Francis Diedricks, daughter of Commander and Mrs. Louis F.

Diedricks of City Island and formerly of Brooklyn, to Lieut. George Francis Cook, U.S. A. son of Mrs. George F.

-Cook of Glens Falls and the late Mr. Cook, on June. 9 at St. Mary's, Star of the Sea C. Church.

Monsignor Thomas Francis Murray officiated. A reception followed at Twaites Shore House, City Island. The bride wore a white satin gown trimmed with seed pearls, and a crown of seed pearls with a fingertip veil of illusion net. She carried a white orchid with lilies of the valley on a prayer book. Her maid of honor, Miss Jean Wiedenman of Brooklyn, was attired in a Nile green chiffon dress and matching hat and carried a shower of yellow daisies with ivy.

The other attendants were Miss Josephine C. Halpin of Jamaica and Miss Ann Pankavich of Long Island City, who wore orchid chiffon and Miss Carol Ann Diedricks, sister of the bride, who daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Paul became the bride yesterday of Mr. and Mrs.

Anthony Candels of St. Francis of Assisi. The was in white organdy over Nile green. Miss Halpin and Miss Pankavich carried cascades of white daisies and ivy and Miss Diedricks carried a basket of daisies. Robert E.

Buckley of Glens Falls was best man and Louis G. Diedricks, brother of the bride of City Island, and Bernard J. Feeney of Kingston ushered. bride is a registered nurse on the staff of St. John's Long Island City Hospital of which she is a graduate of the School of Nursing.

She is a graduate of Fontbonne. Lieut. Cook is the public information officer for the 23d Fighter Interceptor Wing at Presque Isle Air Force Base, Maine. He is a graduate of St. Mary's Academy, Glens Falls and Fordham University.

After a trip to Split Rock Lodge, Poconos, the couple will make their home after July 1st at Main Presque Isle, Maine. Theresa McCaffrey's Marriage Announced Miss Theresa A. McCaffrey, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Daniel P.

McCaffrey of 413 E. 35th became the bride "of Albert J. West, son of Mr. and Mrs. John West of 4207 Farragut Road, on June 9 at a nuptial mass at St.

Jerome's R. C. Church. The celebrant of the mass was the Rev. John F.

Regan. The couple received a special blessing from Pope Pius XII. Immediately following the ceremony, a reception bride's home. warheepride thas attended by her sisters, Mrs. Eugene W.

Daley as matron of honor and Mrs. Ernest G. Dewhirst as bridesmaid. Jacques Hemon was best man. Daniel McCaffrey, brother of the bride, and James Kistler were ushers.

After a wedding trip to Florida, the couple will reside in Brooklyn. Buschke's Studio Mrs. Lothar R. Candels Photo BUILT-IN CABINETS under otherwise would be useless. courtesy of Armstrong Oork Company the stairs utilize space that THE RESULTS of imaginative mirror were once a bureau Photo courtesy of DuPont Company refinishing, this chest and of the McKinley era.

New Homemaking Book Lists Penny-Saving Ideas By ELIZABETH LIPS A new home primer by Kay Hardy, author of several homemaking books, is replete with tips on decorating problems that can give a big boost to any family budget. Fixing sagging upholstery, restoring that favorite but worn easy chair, or building practical space saving bookcases, record cabinets, kitchen cupboards and many other home items can actually save the homemaker hundreds of dollars. In her latest book, "How to Finish or Refinish Your Furniture," published by Funk and Wagnalls, Miss Hardy gives step-by-step directions on how to turn out professional-looking jobs easily and economically. The book costs $3.75. The book is easy to follow, and so clearly illustrated by the author that even a 'Double-Duty' Rings For Betrothal, Wedding A "double-duty" ring that serves as a wedding and engagement band is the latest design innovation to capture the lic's fancy, according to a noted jewelry craftsman here.

The idea is still too new, in the opinion of the designer Marc Koven, to predict that brides will soon discontinue wearing individual betrothal and marital rings. That age old tradition has been too firmly established, he says. Nevertheless, he points out, the "two-in-one" trend in rings is gathering momentum. Women are attracted by the additional creative imagination that goes into the making of such rings, as well as the thrift factor of buying one instead of two bands, he explains. Koven's latest creation achieves a modern feeling by combining streamlined effects with contrasting colors in gems and precious metals.

The shank is executed of brilliant white palladium, the platinum sister-metal in the white gold price range. It is topped by an emerald cut, blue Kashmir sapheld in yellow gold prongs. Weekend Marks Contemporary Comment Many Club Openings By RUTH G. DAVIS John Heitmann is chairman of the evening Society Editor Since this is the official weekend for many resorts to open we find many "firsts" being planned. The first annual meeting of the Ladies Association of the Lake Mohawk Golf Club has been set for July 2 and will take place at the clubhouse.

Mrs. Herman Sturcke of 7615 Ridge Boulevard has been elected treasurer. The association will have its opening luncheon at that time. Mrs. August Helmken of Richmond Hill will act as assistant hostess.

THIS SATURDAY NIGHT will be the formal opening dances at both the Atlantic Beach Club, where Jimmy Harkins and his orchestra will provide the music, and the Sun and Surf Club, Atlantic Beach, where Bernie Dolen's orchestra will play for the dancing. TOMORROW EVENING is the time of one of the very important events of the year at the Knickerbocker Field Club, E. 18th St. and Tennis Court. This is the night of the Rose Dance, the al fresco event which takes place on the tennis court, where gay colored lights will be strung and a June moon will make for a happy evening.

(We hope it's clear.) Tables will be placed around the grounds and on the porches of the club for the members and their guests to enjoy their refreshments. So with the lights, the moon and the pretty Summer dance frocks of the women guests, the Rose Dance will be most colorful. George Dettlef's orchestra will play for the dancing. I Flatbush Woman Super Auto Accessory Salesman By MARGARET MARA Miss Beadye Emmer of of the auto accessories industry. the country, she has a collection personal letters of commendation.

ecutive for Yankee Metal ucts Corporation of Norwalk, Conn. She sells auto sories by mail and Her sales letters are models of effectiveness for which she has been awarded several, prizes. Prentice Hall published one of Miss Emmer's letters which is credited with bringing in a quarter of a million dollars in orders for auto lamps and auto mirrors. A letter- writing firm which provides businessmen with form letters, also distributed reprints of Miss Emmer's prize letter as a model. never use, commented typed business letters," Miss Emmer.

"I believe in dramatizing the Miss Emmer's much talkedabout letter that reaped a harvest of orders for her firm, starts off forcefully: "Gentlemen: We are at war. We must win it with all the power and force at our com- Helpful Hints For Busy Days In factories and on farms today the by-word is more efficiency and more production. With more women working in factories, with men and women in military service and a shortage of help all around, the by-word in the homes might well be more and more production. a cue from a seven point plan in one of the food processing plants, the family might line up slogans for team work something like this: 1. Make homemaking a team job.

Let each one do his or her own "picking let each and every one pitch in and help with the general chores. 2. Avoid waste in using all supplies. 3. Make the best use of what you have.

Keep all appliances and equipment in good order. Keep furnishings in good repair. 4. Think up ways of doing the daily jobs around the house in quicker and easier fashion. 5.

Be prompt. Time is valuable. Once gone it's gone forever. So do what has to be done on time, and in time. 6.

Buy what is needed but only what is needed -for that's one of the ways inflation can be controlled. 7. Take care of your clothes; keep them mended. use of variety of pack8. In preparing, meals, make aged, canned, frozen and other processed foods that reduce time in preparation and insure success.

face lifting, which may call' for changing the legs, removand simplifying bases, removing ornate trimming and changing surface finishes, old attic pieces can become attractive furniture for modern liv- Homemakers who have been keeping house for 20 years or more will also find gestions on treating their furniture to a new dress with new finishes, paints and fabrics. With professional thoroughness, the book starts out with a complete listing and descrip-. Ition of tools that will be needed. The equipment for a home workshop or home painting workshop is prescribed, and planning for order, convenience and good storage space is lever stressed. Helpful for complete the chart of suggested color schemes amateur painter is a based on furniture color.

Then the author goes into detail on how to prepare new or old furniture for refinishing. Correct brush technique, craftstricks for removing old paint, repairing old furniture before refinishing, reweaving cane seats and stenciling are some of the topics in this section of the Another chapter is devoted to finishes for outdoor furniture. "All Those Little Things" is the name of another chapter which covers repairing or mak. ing of any number of household accessories, such as lamps, out of favorite decorative objects. Shelve Mary, Haworth's Mail Unstable Mate Flatbush is the No.

1 Pen Pal Known to dealers throughout of more than 2,000 business and Miss Emmer. is a sales ex- mand. Work--not words will preserve the Another of her prize winning letters begins with the salutation: "Soldiers, of Industry." The only woman executive in the automotive accessories industry, Miss Emmer, is re-garded as unbeatable as a telephone salesman. In a recent week she spent a few hours daily on the phone in a sales campaign and wrote up 000 in orders. "They call me' the 'vestpocket' salesman," revealed Miss Emmer.

She is only 4 feet 10 inches in height. She has hair and blue eyes and has a forthright manner that is most ingratiating. Aside from her parents with whom she 2145 Ocean "Bee" has no Iner can produce satisfying work. Miss Hardy also stresses the therapeutic value of making a hobby out of doing things for yourself at home. "Rubbing down a surface with pumice or sandpaper provides a means of working off a petty annoyance," she avers in the preface.

"The attention given the smooth flow of a coat of varnish will chase all other worries from the Budget Watchers For the newlyweds, starting on a limited budget, Miss Hardy suggests the endless possibilities in cast-offs which are turally sound but far from fashionable. With the benefit of The Nurse's Notebook Bed Time for Johnny (Prepared by the Visiting Nurse Association of Brook- Lyn as a service to friends and By Miss ELEANOR W. MOLE Often an anxious mother ciation to ask, "What shall I do night? He doesn't want to be take his teddy bear away from The nurse asks questions. How old is Johnny? Does he have a nap during the day, is he overexcited by rough play with Daddy before he is put to bed? Are the parents making bedtime as pleasant as possible? gets all sleep he needs. The healthy, infant usually By the time he is two, Johnny should have 12-hours sleep at night and a nap of from one to two hours after luncheon.

Mothers sometimes fit the nap into their own schedule, finding it convenient have the child asleep while they get dinner. As a result, Johnny, refreshed by his belated rest, is raring to go at bedtime. From two to six years the nap time varies but rest at night is still 12-hours. Some children stop sleeping during the day by the time they are three but many physicians recommend a period of relaxation in bed until the child is five or six. If this rest period is omitted too early, Johnny may become irritable and keyed-up so that he can't sleep at bedtime.

patients of the organization.) Executive Director will call the Visiting Nurse Assoabout putting Johnny to bed at left alone and he cries when I him." From six to nine years a child gives up an hour of sleep but should be in bed for approximately 11 hours, from 8 p.m. to 7 a.m. It is important to make going to bed pleasant and tranquil. If Johnny is at the age when he must have a favorite toy blanket in bed with him, make, sure that he has it. Fix the time so firmly that there is no room for argument.

A story, not a thriller, told or read before he goes to bed, may help him to relax and look forward to the hour with pleasure. Many children, once they are in bed, keep jumping up again with demands for a drink of water, cookies or anything else that comes to mind. Try not to become angry when this happens. After the age of two, fears of the dark, of being alone and, later, anxieties about school, often arise in a youngster and this may be his way of dispelling his fears. Lead him gently to bed, soothe him and, if necessary, leave a dim light burning the room until he falls asleep.

COOLER IN THE SHADE--A cool sheath of pure silk black crepe takes bouffant brief sleeves of chiffon. Perfect for dining and dancing on hot Summer nights in town, the dress has a deep curved neckline above the slimmest of sheaths. Shown by Russeks at their luncheon fashion show on the Starlight Roof of the Waldorf Astoria yesterday. note de Beadye Emmer terests outside of her job. For 18 years she has commuted to Norwalk, five days a week.

The trip entails four hours travel daily. On Saturday and Sunday, she works in an office which she set up at home. Born London, Miss Emmer was brought here as a child. She was graduated from Washington Irving High School and attended two business schools. She wanted to be a teacher but was barred because she wasn't tall enough to meet physical requirements.

However, she has satisfied her teaching ambitions in some degree by teaching English to foreigners. Miss Emmer started with Yankee Metal Products 29 years ago as a relief telephone operator. Her salary was $8 week. Today, she is a high salaried executive. DEAR MARY HAWORTH Almost nine not drive myself to try to "pick up the pieces" and assisting him on the committee are Mr.

and Mrs, Russell Cardona, Mr. and Mrs. Edwin Watson, Mr. and Mrs. James N.

Cooke, Bert Shinton and Spencer Valmy, SOME NOTES Dr. and Mrs. Samuel P. Bailey of 43 Willow St. will give their annual anniversary party tomorrow.

They will celebrate their 19th wedding anniversary Miss Katherine Wolcott, daughter of the Rev. and Mrs. Leonard C. Wolcott of 61 Pierrepont who has been attending school at Kemper Hall, Kenosha, has returned to her home for the Summer vacation. Miss Wolcott, who will be a senior next year, was one of the junior class representatives to the Student Council, manager of the swimming team, a member of the French Club, A.

C. the Missionary Board and a representative of the school paper. At the awarding of honors on Commencement Day she received the Medieval and Modern History Prize for outstanding excellence Capt. and Mrs. George Poppe of San Francisco, were recent house guests of Capt.

and Mrs. Joseph Zuljevic of 421 80th St. Mr. and Mrs. Frank C.

Roggenkamp of 43 164th Flushing, are spending their vacation in Acapulco, Mexico. The couple made the trip via American Airlines Miss Barbara H. Thomason, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Thomason of 744 Hancock is vacationing in Trinidad, British West Indies.

Miss Thomason will remain there until her opening semester at City College of New York in ago Jim and I married, after six years of years "off again, on again" courtship. We have two darling children, a son and daughter, ages five and two years, respectively. But we've had so much trouble, over women and Jim's job instability, I no longer have any feeling for him. During the war years, while stationed on the coast, Jim met another girl (during our first year of marriage) and continued to see her, even after I moved there. I learned this later, after he shipped out, and it left me feeling lost.

Jim came home in 1945, Mary Haworth our son was born the following year, and in a few months Jim was involved with a second girl. He, returned to his mother, came back to me (at my request), then kept up the affair for three years, during which time the girl called me occasionally, to vilify me and demand Jim's freedom. In the end, Jim gave her a brutal beating and never dated her again; and when I offered him a divorce he refused, saying he knew he'd made a mistake but the girl was tenacious. Thus began our second attempt to build a marriage. Religion Denies Divorce In 1949 our daughter was born, a relative found an apartment for us--we'd been living in one room, sharing a kitchen and bathand Jim lost his good job, due to arrogance and irregular hours.

The girl had been pestering him at his place of work. He was out of work for 16 months and we had to go on public relief until he found other employment. These experiences and my husband's reaction to them have killed any faith or confidence I had in him. I want to leave him but have no other home for the children. He says I may go, but may not take the children.

Is there any way I can get a separation from Jim, without giving up my apartment? My religion prohibits divorce; but I cannot abide the prospect of living this way indefinitefly, until the children are grown. And I can- again. V. B. Spirit Broken DEAR V.

you brought to mar. riage some very strong convictions-or call them ideals what that relationship should be. And it appears that these concepts have been almost your only support, or source of backing and strength, in trying to achieve teamwork with a psychopathic partner. There is nothing wrong with this approach to marriage, provided the ideals coincide, potentially, with the capacity of the persons involved; but in your case, Jim's incapacities have been so frustrating as to break your spirit. Studies of wartime behavior show that many men with a latent pattern of instabilitynot previously subjected to severe stressfound they couldn't stand up to multiplied uncertainties, and so escaped, compulsively, into affairs or alcoholism.

Thus many marriages went on the rocks prematurely, that might have been saved if the young wife had temperately taken into account her soldier bridegroom's underlying problem of insecurity his feeling that every aspect of his life was transient and threatened. Forcing Choice at the record. Jim had a first affair almost simultaneously with the honeymoon. He had a second affair during your son's infancy. And he lost his job to lapse into a season of total irresponsibility while you bore the second child.

Now you worry that a separation, long overdue, might penalize you most of all, by depriving you of a home with the children. Unconsciously you've been weighing fear of the world against the wistful hope that Jim might reform-thus passively avoiding a positive move, and tacitly refusing to shoulder responsibility for what happens next. It seems to me that time is forcing a choice upon you, and that life with Jim is a steadily losing proposition. Doubtless you are entitled to a constructive separation, from the legal view; and for guidance in arranging this, with. out forfeiting custody of the children or jeopardizing your home security, consult the Legal Aid Society in your community-or the Family Service Agency, or similar welfare service.

M. H..